I need intervention.

Help!  I’ve entered that “I’m so depressed, I’m gaining too much weight this pregnancy” phase.  I want to hide under my bed and not go anywhere or do anything for the next six months.  Unfortunately, I still have kids to feed, a house to clean, and many other things to do along the way.  I’m not just saying this either, I’m on the right path, or the wrong path, to gain more this time out of all four.  Help, all you moms out there, what do you do to feel better and get through this?  I need your advice.

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13 Comments

  1. lee said,

    October 7, 2008 at 12:12 pm

    Jackie, I saw a picture of you from the Celine concert, and you look great! I gained like 10lbs one month with Ainslee, I about died. But it all balanced out and it came off. You have to be healthy and eat good for your baby. And it will all come off. I am so sorry you are feeling like this.. I hated the way I looked pregnant, and so I totally understand it. I always felt better when I got up showered, fixed my hair and makeup. And then wore my cutest maternity outfit I had. You are gorgeous. And remember this is what we are designed to do. We are meant to be Mothers, to grow these wonderful miracles, and our bodies are meant to change. I wish I would have embraced it more now that I can’t. But hindsight is 20/20. Focus on the great things your body is doing. And I don’t know. I hope you feel better. ((hugs))

  2. Cassie said,

    October 7, 2008 at 12:19 pm

    Jackie, chill out. I understand that no matter what anyone says, you are going to feel the way you are going to feel. But, I’m saying this as a sister who loves you very much. Snap out of it. I know for certain that you are adorable whether you are your usual stick self, or a few pounds heavier BECAUSE YOU ARE PREGNANT! Chill.

  3. Laura said,

    October 7, 2008 at 1:49 pm

    I’m a terrible person to be giving advise on this…especially since I just gained about a zillion pounds on vacation, so I feel just like you and I’m not even pregnant! However, I just saw you and you look fabulous, so you can take comfort in the fact that although the scale may be going up, you’re the only one who would know. I felt just like this with both of my pregnancies. I know you don’t normally wear maternity clothes, so this might not work for you; I would by a great pair of jeans and a few cute casual dresses. I loved wearing dresses. It was more comfortable and helped me feel less fat.

  4. Beth said,

    October 7, 2008 at 5:18 pm

    No matter what anyone says to you or the advice they give, all that matters is how you feel and you are the only one who can control that. With that said, I say let it go and enjoy the ice cream. You have plenty of time afterwards to worry about the size of your lower extremities.

  5. candyjavier said,

    October 7, 2008 at 6:19 pm

    I’m with Cassie! Chill, lady… chill. Your body is going to put on whatever it needs. Let your baby get what she needs… and if she develops an early love for chocolate, that would be just fine with me!

  6. mary said,

    October 7, 2008 at 9:17 pm

    Do you and Russell need a night out? I will come over and watch the kids so you can get a mommy break!! Hang in there….

  7. abbymaile said,

    October 8, 2008 at 12:15 am

    I feel your pain, feel your pain, feel your pain, feel your pain, feel your pain, and feel your pain. I had to say it six times, because I’ve been through those exact same emotions six times, now. And it never seems to get any better for me. I feel those same feelings and have those same thoughts with each and every pregnancy. But I’d have to say that I agree with the advice from whomever said to make sure you take a shower and get ready as much as possible. I could always pinpoint on the days that I didn’t that that was the reason I felt extra crappy. At least after I showered I knew that it was the best I could do, and that I just had to move forward because I couldn’t make it go away for x-number of months. That’s my other word of advice. To somehow remind yourself whenever you have those negative crippling self-deprecating thoughts that it is NOT permanent, and that you know what you are capable of doing with your body once the baby is here, since you’ve done it three times before! I don’t take this blog entry of yours lightly, because I feel that you and I are very similar in this respect. It is hard for me to adequately explain to others exactly how depressing it feels, for 9 WHOLE months. Depressing doesn’t even seem like a strong enough word to describe how difficult it is for me. And yet, you put if perfectly. You still have other babies to feed and take care of, all the while feeling like your world is hopeless. I don’t think I’m describing it well enough, but I’m telling you, I feel your pain. As a matter of fact, call me. . . we’ll talk, because even though I hear Cass and Candy’s advise of “Chill”, and I know they’re right, I could never do that myself. I felt like I was drowing in negative thoughts, and didn’t want to be seen either. CALL ME! Love you, and know that you can make it through the next couple of months!

  8. Juliann said,

    October 8, 2008 at 1:12 am

    That’s funny you said that because last night when I checked your blog my first thought was “wow, her face is so skinny for being half-way into her pregnancy”. Anyway, you have the most adorable family. We look up to you guys TONS. Take care.

  9. Weiler's said,

    October 9, 2008 at 12:35 pm

    Oh Jackie. The fun of pregnancy. Well, every pregnancy is different. With Clark I gained 42lbs. Wow! With this pregnancy I have gained less. I agree with showering and getting all glammed up. The months when I worked on getting myself ready I gained less weight. I don’t know if it just takes so much energy to get pretty or if I take care of myself better when I do. You looked the best you ever have in your life after having 3 kids. Caleb always says that you are skinnier now then when he first became friends with Russ. I know that doesn’t help right now. But hold onto the hope that you can do it again. Every pregnancy you start to wonder… ” Is this is the baby that will make me fat for forever?”. I know, most women do. With determination and Russells support I am not worried that you will bounce back. So just take it one week at a time. Afterall, I can’t tell that you have gained anything from the pics you have posted.

  10. Scott said,

    October 9, 2008 at 9:49 pm

    Jackie my cute little sister… My advice for you is to EAT EAT EAT! after every one of you little budles of joy you have come out of it looking 100% better than you did going into it!

    Your AWESOME remember that and you know your the best for it!

  11. Bob Davis said,

    October 10, 2008 at 8:34 pm

    Jackie, I guess the best thing I could say would be to remember what the outcome of your suffering is. Just think how much fun you are going to have with a little girl!! Love, Dad

  12. Jennilyn said,

    October 12, 2008 at 4:06 pm

    Although I have only done it once, my advice to you is that there are lots of people who would kill to gain extra weight if they could have a baby.That is what pulled me out of being depressed is thinking about how much better gaining weight is than not being able to have a baby.

  13. Mom said,

    October 12, 2008 at 7:58 pm

    Oh my! Much ado…about something. There is truth in everyone’s comments…from “Chill,” to “Glam,” to “I completely understand!” I think I win the prize for experience, however…although everyone’s is different, even from child to child. However, having been in the category of “You’ll never have children,” I KNOW that no sacrifice is too much. And pregnancy is a sacrifice…for the entire family…and since Eve, it was intended to be so. Therefore, the question is not how to avoid the sacrifice, but rather how to live through it with grace and The Spirit. To put it more succinctly…if Maya (sp?) asked you if she could come to earth and what would you be willing to do so she could…I suspect that the current challenges would pale in comparison to what you would really be willing to do. God bless you for being willing to hold hands with Father in Heaven to transport another of His Spirit children, one of your own siblings, to the next Great Adventure.


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